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REDDIT DIVORCE BOT PART II: THE DIVORCE MAP

By Emily James For Dailymail. A group of Reddit users who got divorced from their spouses after two or more years of marriage are revealing why their relationships failed - and discussing whether they could have done anything to prevent it. From falling in love with someone else to constant fighting and a secret cocaine habit, the anonymous men shared the specific reasons that caused their marriages to implode on AskRedditwith most confessing that they feel their break-ups were out of their control. I found out she was sleeping with a series of other guys and had a coke habit. I was an idiot, but she'll always be broken. I moved on, things are much better now. She spent six years trying to contact me to get back together, but has finally given up now though. Fancyfire gave up alcohol in an effort to better himself, but his wife was not on board. I've tried to fix it, [but it] didn't worked out. Osojayadeva split up from his wife after he discovered she was cheating on him. Turns out, she didn't want to have sex with me. Quadsimotto was married to his wife for almost nine years, but there constant fighting eventually tore them apart. We got to the point where we fought everyday. We each knew what to say to hurt the other and both of us were vicious in our verbal attacks towards the other. All we ever did was argue and more and more often it turned in to a yelling match. Regardless of how much we loved each other there was an almost equal amount of anger towards one another. We decided it would be for the best to try a separation which in turn led to a divorce. The funny thing about it all is that we get along really good now. We are both very civil to each other and there is no trace of the dislike for each other. BadMiker and his wife divorced after three years of marriage when he learned she was cheating on him. We had dated a couple of years before and had split up over her cheating on me. I was young, insecure, and terrified of being alone. I suspect she was cheating on me when we were dating too after the fact. Astartef said he and his wife split up because they got married too young. It might have been fixable if we were both better communicators and if we had made an unbreakable decision to stick together. We made vows, but that is not the same thing as every day turning towards the one you are with, working everything out. Let her make the decisions for the house because she wanted it that way. She had barely any friends because she chose to stay home. One day she started doing this bowling league with her girlfriends, and left me out. So they're all signed up but me. Find out shes flirting with the bartender.

"I regret divorcing my husband everyday. It's too late to turn back."


Divorce sucks. Even in the darkest of break-ups, though, is a silver lining — underrated parts of divorce that might feel devastating in the moment, but end up being for the best. Our culture has put such a negative cloud over divorce that it's something which causes us to feel shame, like we're inferior to those who "made it. In fact, divorce can be a power tool in learning more deeply about the self, the relationship, and what might have gone amiss. As such, learning and growth for both partners becomes the focus. When shame is removed from the equation, a powerful shift in attitude and future behaviors can result. Easier said than done, of course, but surely, there are people out there who made it through divorce and — dare I say it? There's a lot of hurt and a lot of pain, but here are 14 positive and underrated things other people got out of their divorces, per a recent AskReddit thread. Psychology Today quotes psychologist Terri Apter saying that three out of four couples "experience significant conflict with their in-laws," and relationships between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the most challenging. Negative relationships with in-laws can eat away at your marriage. When you get divorced, in a sense, you divorce your partner's parents, too. The good things in life teach us a lot. The bad things in life perhaps teach us even more. Painful experiences make you tougher and more resilient, and you walk away smarter and stronger than you were before. Home sweet home? Not when you and your partner aren't on good terms. Not wanting to return to your own place might be one of the worst feelings in the world. Having a home to call your own, one that you love being in, is one of the most comfortable feelings you'll experience. When your relationship has turned toxic, even running simple errands with your partner can take a toll. Being able to just feel normal on your own brings a sense of relief. The future you had planned out isn't going to happen — which might be for the best. That means you're on a new adventure, one you haven't anticipated. Surprises can be fun. People tend to think that walking away is the "easy" way out. On the contrary, oftentimes, walking away is the hardest way out. It's hard to let go of a relationship, even when you know it's for the best. You should ever feel obligated to live under someone's "rules" in a relationship in the first place, but it just underscores another underrated facet of some cases of divorce: no rules to live by. No one's permission to get before you make a move. You do you. Being single again means you don't have to be anyone's maid — except your own. A study by the Harvard Business School shared by FOX 5 found that 25 percent of couples who end up getting divorced fight over household chores. Domestic responsibilities are a more common source of divorce than most people know. Dating can be fun! And knowing you have a couple youngsters watching your every move can certainly make you more deliberate in your actions. Building a home with your partner isn't enjoyable if your partner doesn't care about it. When you're single again, you can invest in your house and build it however you want to. Alright, fine. So the last relationship didn't go the way you expected it to. You can bet the next one is going to be much better.

The Economics of Divorce


By Emily James For Dailymail. A group of Reddit users who got divorced from their spouses after two or more years of marriage are revealing why their relationships failed - and discussing whether they could have done anything to prevent it. From falling in love with someone else to constant fighting and a secret cocaine habit, the anonymous men shared the specific reasons that caused their marriages to implode on AskRedditwith most confessing that they feel their break-ups were out of their control. I found out she was sleeping with a series of other guys and had a coke habit. I was an idiot, but she'll always be broken. I moved on, things are much better now. She spent six years trying to contact me to get back together, but has finally given up now though. Fancyfire gave up alcohol in an effort to better himself, but his wife was not on board. I've tried to fix it, [but it] didn't worked out. Osojayadeva split up from his wife after he discovered she was cheating on him. Turns out, she didn't want to have sex with me. Quadsimotto was married to his wife for almost nine years, but there constant fighting eventually tore them apart. We got to the point where we fought everyday. We each knew what to say to hurt the other and both of us were vicious in our verbal attacks towards the other. All we ever did was argue and more and more often it turned in to a yelling match. Regardless of how much we loved each other there was an almost equal amount of anger towards one another. We decided it would be for the best to try a separation which in turn led to a divorce. The funny thing about it all is that we get along really good now. We are both very civil to each other and there is no trace of the dislike for each other. BadMiker and his wife divorced after three years of marriage when he learned she was cheating on him. We had dated a couple of years before and had split up over her cheating on me. I was young, insecure, and terrified of being alone. I suspect she was cheating on me when we were dating too after the fact. Astartef said he and his wife split up because they got married too young. It might have been fixable if we were both better communicators and if we had made an unbreakable decision to stick together. We made vows, but that is not the same thing as every day turning towards the one you are with, working everything out. Let her make the decisions for the house because she wanted it that way.

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly: Opinions from Reddit about Marriage and Prenups


No one ever walks down the aisle thinking they will be signing divorce papers several years later, but it's a sad fact that is all too common. Here are some of the responses that spoke to us, but you can read the rest of the thread here. In sickness and in health. She was gone three months later. I had to stop driving and move to where I walk to work to stay employed. I look back at that time and am pretty amazed I didn't lose my mind. So much happier now. She was not the one and I'm glad she left. Life hasn't been easy, exactly. But I don't think it is for most people. But in retrospect, she freed me to become a better, more complete person. Nothing to gain. I never said anything and supported her attempts at weight loss. One day, I was trying on an old Steelers jersey that didn't fit, because I had gained 15 pounds in 10 years. You'll just have to lose weight. He did it knowing that I had not backed up my phone and it wasn't connected to the Cloud either. That was the final straw. Too much scrutiny. He then took my bank ATM card and cut it up. I couldn't handle living under a microscope anymore. All at once. It's really hard to think of an exact final straw. It was building up for many years. The day I realized I was truly done, he didn't really do anything wrong. I kept that to myself in the moment, but that was the definitive 'done' moment.

Divorced People Of Reddit

In my previous article I described the process of developing a legal tech tool that is applied to an existing platform. I created a bot that is automatically prompted to reply when a Reddit user is considering getting a divorce. If you would like to read more about the bot click here. The Reddit divorce bot provides the original poster with legal information that could be helpful when the topic of divorce pops up. During my initial prepping for this project, I was expecting to easily find a portal that embedded legal information of all the states on divorce. Unfortunately, I was wrong. This governmental website provides basic information on divorce. I have annotated the print screens. The information on divorce is written in a clear-cut manner. The website has a clean, minimalistic look which helps users tremendously when they have to read up on a complex topic. The main website of the Dutch judiciary also provides general information on divorce. Two of my favorite headers on this website are the calculator that calculates the provisional court fees and timeline that illustrates the average amount of time that a divorce proceeding takes. Small things like this provide the person who wants to undertake a divorce with security and transparency. I merely wanted to provide basic general information. People who are considering a divorce are about to embark on a difficult and stressful road. The general information that courts or other governmental institutions provide can be beneficial in the process of reducing the stress that a user of the legal system encounters when he or she first starts researching the topic. Nevertheless I had high hopes of finding a portal that linked to divorce information per state. My main rule was that the information should be from a governmental institution, preferably a court. Unfortunately, I could not find a non-commercial platform that offered legal information per state. Most of these websites were linked to law firms or other commercial platforms. I wanted to provide free and independent information to Reddit users. In the United States almost all states have either a court or governmental institution website that provides basic legal information. However I wanted all these sites to be organized per state and per topic. This is why I decided to create my own portal that links to legal information on divorce for each state. From a user standpoint, the easiest way to navigate a site when the information differs per location, is to illustrate it in a map format. This makes it user-friendly as the user is able to see at once where he or she can find the information that is applicable to their location. I decided to create the map with leaflet. Leaflet is an open-source JavaScript library for mobile-friendly interactive maps. I used leaflet to create an interactive map of the United States that embeds legal information on divorce per state. Court websites. The legal information the map refers to are mostly court websites that have general information on divorce. Luckily the Legal Design Lab has created an inventory of court and state based legal self-help portals. The quality of the websites I visited varied. Unfortunately there were some sites with limited functionality in both design and content.

When Did You Know You Were Getting A Divorce? (r/AskReddit)



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