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- REDDIT DIVORCE BOT PART II: THE DIVORCE MAP
- "I regret divorcing my husband everyday. It's too late to turn back."
- The Economics of Divorce
- The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly: Opinions from Reddit about Marriage and Prenups
- Divorced People Of Reddit
REDDIT DIVORCE BOT PART II: THE DIVORCE MAP
By Emily James For Dailymail. A group of Reddit users who got divorced from their spouses after two or more years of marriage are revealing why their relationships failed - and discussing whether they could have done anything to prevent it. From falling in love with someone else to constant fighting and a secret cocaine habit, the anonymous men shared the specific reasons that caused their marriages to implode on AskRedditwith most confessing that they feel their break-ups were out of their control. I found out she was sleeping with a series of other guys and had a coke habit. I was an idiot, but she'll always be broken. I moved on, things are much better now. She spent six years trying to contact me to get back together, but has finally given up now though. Fancyfire gave up alcohol in an effort to better himself, but his wife was not on board. I've tried to fix it, [but it] didn't worked out. Osojayadeva split up from his wife after he discovered she was cheating on him. Turns out, she didn't want to have sex with me. Quadsimotto was married to his wife for almost nine years, but there constant fighting eventually tore them apart. We got to the point where we fought everyday. We each knew what to say to hurt the other and both of us were vicious in our verbal attacks towards the other. All we ever did was argue and more and more often it turned in to a yelling match. Regardless of how much we loved each other there was an almost equal amount of anger towards one another. We decided it would be for the best to try a separation which in turn led to a divorce. The funny thing about it all is that we get along really good now. We are both very civil to each other and there is no trace of the dislike for each other. BadMiker and his wife divorced after three years of marriage when he learned she was cheating on him. We had dated a couple of years before and had split up over her cheating on me. I was young, insecure, and terrified of being alone. I suspect she was cheating on me when we were dating too after the fact. Astartef said he and his wife split up because they got married too young. It might have been fixable if we were both better communicators and if we had made an unbreakable decision to stick together. We made vows, but that is not the same thing as every day turning towards the one you are with, working everything out. Let her make the decisions for the house because she wanted it that way. She had barely any friends because she chose to stay home. One day she started doing this bowling league with her girlfriends, and left me out. So they're all signed up but me. Find out shes flirting with the bartender."I regret divorcing my husband everyday. It's too late to turn back."
Divorce sucks. Even in the darkest of break-ups, though, is a silver lining — underrated parts of divorce that might feel devastating in the moment, but end up being for the best. Our culture has put such a negative cloud over divorce that it's something which causes us to feel shame, like we're inferior to those who "made it. In fact, divorce can be a power tool in learning more deeply about the self, the relationship, and what might have gone amiss. As such, learning and growth for both partners becomes the focus. When shame is removed from the equation, a powerful shift in attitude and future behaviors can result. Easier said than done, of course, but surely, there are people out there who made it through divorce and — dare I say it? There's a lot of hurt and a lot of pain, but here are 14 positive and underrated things other people got out of their divorces, per a recent AskReddit thread. Psychology Today quotes psychologist Terri Apter saying that three out of four couples "experience significant conflict with their in-laws," and relationships between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the most challenging. Negative relationships with in-laws can eat away at your marriage. When you get divorced, in a sense, you divorce your partner's parents, too. The good things in life teach us a lot. The bad things in life perhaps teach us even more. Painful experiences make you tougher and more resilient, and you walk away smarter and stronger than you were before. Home sweet home? Not when you and your partner aren't on good terms. Not wanting to return to your own place might be one of the worst feelings in the world. Having a home to call your own, one that you love being in, is one of the most comfortable feelings you'll experience. When your relationship has turned toxic, even running simple errands with your partner can take a toll. Being able to just feel normal on your own brings a sense of relief. The future you had planned out isn't going to happen — which might be for the best. That means you're on a new adventure, one you haven't anticipated. Surprises can be fun. People tend to think that walking away is the "easy" way out. On the contrary, oftentimes, walking away is the hardest way out. It's hard to let go of a relationship, even when you know it's for the best. You should ever feel obligated to live under someone's "rules" in a relationship in the first place, but it just underscores another underrated facet of some cases of divorce: no rules to live by. No one's permission to get before you make a move. You do you. Being single again means you don't have to be anyone's maid — except your own. A study by the Harvard Business School shared by FOX 5 found that 25 percent of couples who end up getting divorced fight over household chores. Domestic responsibilities are a more common source of divorce than most people know. Dating can be fun! And knowing you have a couple youngsters watching your every move can certainly make you more deliberate in your actions. Building a home with your partner isn't enjoyable if your partner doesn't care about it. When you're single again, you can invest in your house and build it however you want to. Alright, fine. So the last relationship didn't go the way you expected it to. You can bet the next one is going to be much better.
The Economics of Divorce
By Emily James For Dailymail. A group of Reddit users who got divorced from their spouses after two or more years of marriage are revealing why their relationships failed - and discussing whether they could have done anything to prevent it. From falling in love with someone else to constant fighting and a secret cocaine habit, the anonymous men shared the specific reasons that caused their marriages to implode on AskRedditwith most confessing that they feel their break-ups were out of their control. I found out she was sleeping with a series of other guys and had a coke habit. I was an idiot, but she'll always be broken. I moved on, things are much better now. She spent six years trying to contact me to get back together, but has finally given up now though. Fancyfire gave up alcohol in an effort to better himself, but his wife was not on board. I've tried to fix it, [but it] didn't worked out. Osojayadeva split up from his wife after he discovered she was cheating on him. Turns out, she didn't want to have sex with me. Quadsimotto was married to his wife for almost nine years, but there constant fighting eventually tore them apart. We got to the point where we fought everyday. We each knew what to say to hurt the other and both of us were vicious in our verbal attacks towards the other. All we ever did was argue and more and more often it turned in to a yelling match. Regardless of how much we loved each other there was an almost equal amount of anger towards one another. We decided it would be for the best to try a separation which in turn led to a divorce. The funny thing about it all is that we get along really good now. We are both very civil to each other and there is no trace of the dislike for each other. BadMiker and his wife divorced after three years of marriage when he learned she was cheating on him. We had dated a couple of years before and had split up over her cheating on me. I was young, insecure, and terrified of being alone. I suspect she was cheating on me when we were dating too after the fact. Astartef said he and his wife split up because they got married too young. It might have been fixable if we were both better communicators and if we had made an unbreakable decision to stick together. We made vows, but that is not the same thing as every day turning towards the one you are with, working everything out. Let her make the decisions for the house because she wanted it that way.
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly: Opinions from Reddit about Marriage and Prenups
No one ever walks down the aisle thinking they will be signing divorce papers several years later, but it's a sad fact that is all too common. Here are some of the responses that spoke to us, but you can read the rest of the thread here. In sickness and in health. She was gone three months later. I had to stop driving and move to where I walk to work to stay employed. I look back at that time and am pretty amazed I didn't lose my mind. So much happier now. She was not the one and I'm glad she left. Life hasn't been easy, exactly. But I don't think it is for most people. But in retrospect, she freed me to become a better, more complete person. Nothing to gain. I never said anything and supported her attempts at weight loss. One day, I was trying on an old Steelers jersey that didn't fit, because I had gained 15 pounds in 10 years. You'll just have to lose weight. He did it knowing that I had not backed up my phone and it wasn't connected to the Cloud either. That was the final straw. Too much scrutiny. He then took my bank ATM card and cut it up. I couldn't handle living under a microscope anymore. All at once. It's really hard to think of an exact final straw. It was building up for many years. The day I realized I was truly done, he didn't really do anything wrong. I kept that to myself in the moment, but that was the definitive 'done' moment.
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