I broke up with him and he said ok

i broke up with my boyfriend and he was ok with it...?

This is my purpose in life: to better myself through knowledge and help others do the same. I hope you enjoy my writing. Your now ex boyfriend just told you that it's over. Your relationship is ending. You're reeling. You feel hurt, angry, and confused. Maybe you saw it coming or maybe it's out of the blue. No matter what your situation is, it's definitely true that it sucks. Soon you'll be alone and have some time to think things through, but right now, all you need to know is how to get through the next ten minutes. No matter what you feel like right now and no matter what you actually believetell yourself that you're OK, that you're going to live through this, and that this isn't the end of the world. Make sure you keep breathing. Focus on the air coming in and out of your nose. You could even count your breaths—keep them deep and even. This will help you stay calm. Don't beg or plead for them to take you back or to change their mind. The more you beg, the worse you look, and the less likely you'll be able to salvage any kind of friendship. In the heat of the moment, you're likely to say something that you will later regret. Keep your words to a minimum. First of all, it won't work. Second of all, you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. Trying to get them to stay in the relationship, or even just to stay with you physically in the same room will only make you look desperate and it will make them want to leave even more. Don't try to get sexy with them bad idea! Kissing isn't going to make them change their mind, even if it might distract you both from what's happening for a little bit. Let them say everything they want to say. After they're finished talking, ask them if there's anything else they'd like to mention. This shows that you are mature enough to let them have the floor. If you need to, take a few moments to gather your thoughts to respond to what they've said. Remember that you cannot change their mind about the breakup, so in your response, simply try to give your point of view without blaming or insulting them. Keep it as positive and as short as possible. Another option is to say that you'd like to give your point of view but that you're feeling too overwhelmed to do it right now.

I Broke Up With Him and He Said Ok: He Cut Me Off After Break Up


I just recently broke up with my boyfriend about 2 and a half weeks ago. We dated for about 5 months and before our relationship went downhill everything was perfect. He wrote me poems, love letters, and sweet text messages. He treated me like a queen and took me on dates and here's more but its too long to post. Anyways, my relationship with him was great in my eyes. We never got into an argument, i was trying to be the perfect girlfriend by being very understanding he is in the rotc program, plays sports in college, and is just very busy but somehow he finds time to have fun. I gave him tons of space but reminded him from time to time how much I care for him, support him, and appreciate all of the things he does for me, and how happy I am to be with him. He would reciprocate by telling me the same and that he is glad he found his "soulmate" and cant wait to spend the rest of his life with me. Sounds like the perfect relationship right? Well, like all relationships, nothing is perfect. I let this go on for about 2 weeks thinking that maybe he just wanted some space and was just busy with alot of things. So, I gave him space and he didnt text me for 3 days. But I told myself I wasn't going to let this happen for too long. I called him in the morning and he didn't answer the phone. I assumed he was asleep after a night of partying. So I texted him and said that i had left a voicemail and told him to call me back. Instead of calling me back he texted me saying that he was headed out to lunch with his buddies. I said somewhere along the lines of "Ok babe, that is fine. But I just wanted to talk on the phone even just for a little. We haven't talked for 3 days and it just seems that you're being distant. It would be easier if we could talk this out in person but since you're busy just go have fun with your friends. Call me when you have time for me. What made it worse was that he didn't text back and disregarded my feelings. I told myself, by 12midnight that night if I don't hear from him I will break up with him. Hours pass by and he never called me or texted me so I broke up with him through text. I know it's horrible to breakup thru text but if he wasn't going to put in any effort into the relationship and ignoring me then that is what he deserves. It's been 2 and a half weeks now and he hasn't texted me back, called me, or has tried to reach out to me. I respect his space, I mean I did just break up with him. But it upsets me so much how the person I am so deeply in-love with can pretend like nothing ever happened between us what I think. All I wanted was a little effort. A simple phone call, or a text and he couldn't give that to me. I wanted for him have enough space without me to think through his real feelings for me. But it makes me question why he was acting like that towards me. I never got any closure. Was everything he said to me in the beginning a lie?

Broke up with my boyfriend but no reaction from him. What does this mean?


Breaking up is hard to do, especially if you still care about your ex. But not every breakup needs to be a bad one. These texts to send your ex after you break up convey empathy without pity, care without romantic love, and concern without hovering. If you had a nasty fight and could both definitely benefit from some space, maybe you should hold off on reaching out, even if you really, really want to. If you were together for a long time and they took the breakup really poorly, the last thing they could want or need is a message from you so soon after ending it. If you decide to text, here are some suggestions for what you might want to say, depending on your situation. I hope you're feeling better today. I'm sorry for the way things went down yesterday, and if you still want to talk, I'm willing to listen. Take care. If you broke up with your ex and they disrespected you for it, do not feel obligated to reach out. In fact, never feel obligated to reach out no matter how they took the breakup! You don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with, but if the breakup ended with them in tears and overall confusion and pain, a text offering them the chance to talk through it might allow them to have closure that they might very much need. Thank you for hearing me out yesterday. I wanted to know that I really appreciate the way you handled our conversation and I'm thankful for what we had when we were together. Again, you don't have to reach out to your ex if you don't want to. If the breakup was amicable, and they seemed OK at the end of it, it might feel like poking the wound so soon after ending the relationship is too much. Plus, if your relationship wasn't particularly anything to be thankful for like if they weren't supportive or didn't treat you wellyou absolutely do not owe them anything. But if your gut tells you your text would do more good than harm, and it was a good relationship while it lasted, let them know you appreciate their maturity and understanding. It's always nice to know that someone you care about deeply admires the way you handle yourself. I'm really glad we talked yesterday. I think our conversation needed to happen and I'm thankful we're both on the same page. How are you feeling? Asking your ex how they feel the next morning might not be a great idea if you know you broke their heart. But if the breakup was mutual and you ended the relationship as friends, it might be nice to check in and see how they're doing. Chances are, they'll feel better, just like you probably do. However, if the breakup was mutual, but the relationship was really, really difficult to end like a long-distance relationship, for example, or a situation where you're in love with each other but need more from the relationshipchecking in might allow you both to talk about it further and reevaluate if you need to. I think it was a conversation that needed to be had, but I feel I went about it the wrong way. I hope you're doing OK today, and if not, I'm willing to talk about it further. This one is tricky.

I Broke Up With Him and He Said Ok: He Cut Me Off After Break Up


Then i broke up with him and he agreed on being friends and said if thats how you feel then ok and its been almost a week since i broke up with him and i have not heard anything from him Breaking up is never ever easy, whether you're on the receiving end or doing the breaking yourself. Feelings don't disappear overnight. If you can't think of anything else at all, then I would suggest talking to him and asking why he was fine with ending things. Be warned though, you might not like what you hear. Personally, it sounds like he was making no effort on his part whether that's down to the excessive gaming or something else - relationships are meant to be mostly about fun and laughter, which are two things I'll guess you weren't getting much of from him. Find a female friend to talk to, they'll know you better than any of us and will probably have some great advice, or at least get some wine and films and realise what fun is again. As I say, you won't forget him overnight, but give it time. Your feelings won't be as raw next week or next month and you'll see that you deserve far more attention than he was giving. I've considered breaking up over this many times, but luckily for him, he's good at getting on my good side again. I've learnt one thing, and that guys don't need or want constant attention alike us. They show their love in other ways. Give him some time, if he really likes you, he should come back. It may take a while though. Also, he's probably really nervous now with you, since you initiated the breakup. So he probably is scared of you lol. To be honest, you don't do anything. You broke up with him, and decided to end the relationship. He is dealing with it in a sensible manner by leaving you alone so you can both recover from the split. If you want back with him, then talk to him about it and discuss the issues that led to you breaking it off in the first place. You may or may not end up back together. If you don't want him back, then stop wondering why he is not following you around. Let things settle and move on. Either he was wanting to break up or he doesn't want you to get the satisfaction of breaking his heart. So maybe he is just pretending he doesn't care. But if you agreed to remain friends, why don't you call him and see how he acts? Try playing the game with him get him interested back into you, then slowly pull him away from his games. If he's a shy guy, he probably just doesn't want to face up to you, or the bad case, he wanted to break up in the first place. It means hes too addicted to a game Answer Save. Good luck. J Flower. How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer. Essence of Awesomeness. Ha, your boyfriend sounds like me. Guys hate games. You seem like you're playing with his emotions. That's called manipulation. Why break up with him, JUST to play with his emotions?!!

6 Texts To Send Your Ex The Day After You Break Up If You Want To Check In

Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what guys generally go through when they breakup. Breakups are hard on all guys. Simple enough to say, but I know plenty of women will talk about how some guy came off like an insensitive jackass after the relationship fell apart because of his actions post-breakup. The fact is: If a guy is profoundly obnoxious or terrible after a breakup, it is most often a testament to how rough the breakup was on him. Some people cope by lashing out. In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc. In fact, guys like to keep their emotional spectrum focused on a tight range of emotions — somewhere between amusement and contentedness. Personally, I have had breakups where I pretty much went cold. I wanted her to be OK, I wanted good things for her in life, but I knew that nothing was going to make the situation better. No discussion was going to fix things, no clarity was to be had — it would have just been an emotional toilet for both of us. I realize it probably came off jerky, but when I cut off communication, my heart is in the right place. When he jumps into another relationship, he can get a dose of external female validation and derive a feeling of false sense of self-esteem and self-worth from her positive attention. It has its cost though and eventually devolves into a crippling neediness. That is to say, he seeks his feeling of validation and worth from how a woman treats him. When a person male or female realizes that only they themselves can be responsible for their emotions, actions, and reactions… they break the chain of seeking a sense of OK-ness externally. When we believe something that is out of alignment with reality, we suffer…. Every guy has a set of core values for who he is, what he stands for, and what he really wants out of life. Sometimes in a relationship, a guy will really, really love a girl and may start to compromise these core values. Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits. It seems innocent enough, but over time the guy begins to starve for whatever it was he got from the things he gave up. It changes the guy and, in turn, changes the relationship. Problem is, once the guy is done licking his wounds and mentally revisiting the pain of his past relationship, a feeling of loneliness will set in and hook-ups will seem empty and hollow. This roots back to what I was saying earlier about neediness and a guy deriving a sense of well-being through how women treat him. When people, male or female, derive a sense of well-being, self-esteem and self-worth from how other people treat us, we suffer…. So even for the guys going on a hookup binge post-breakup, they eventually crash back to Earth and have to deal with their feelings head-on. In my opinion, the best thing a guy can do is hang out with his friends after a breakup. Get some male perspective on the situation, forgive himself for what he wishes he did differently and take some time to be single.

Want to Get Over Your Ex OR Get Him Back? Don’t Do This… - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy



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